I always prided myself on being a good talker. Orator
rather. I talked with confidence, my language was good enough, and most of the time, I knew what I was talking about. However, in the
past 2 months, as I work with an MNC (as a CA Article to all those wondering how old am I to already be working! :P) realised that I am not. I am a debater. Not a talker, not a conversationalist.
My senior had a very interesting remark to give me on my
feedback. He said something that will stay with me for quite some time.
"There are a 10000 people working in this company. That means 10000
different point of views. And 10000 different egos that you can hurt. Because
everyone has an ego whether they admit it or not. So when you are talking to
people you have to know how to talk to them to get your work done" Those
were his exact wise words, amongst others.
A lot of us unconsciously know about this fact. Yet
realisation is an entirely different thing from knowing. And I have realised
how unsuitable my way of talking is. And I am sure a lot of you people out
there who know me will agree to that fact.
Each one of us has a distinct way of talking. We talk in a certain
manner - polite, soft, to-the point, not too much, brash, aggressive. And we
talk differently with different sets of people, unconsciously. Obviously the people we are comfortable with
see our best and worse sides more often than others. People we don't like so
much we don't talk much. People at work we talk differently.
What I mean to say is, that talking is an art that one
learns or needs to learn when you are working as a professional. We need to
consciously be able diversify the people you work with, your clients, your
clients clients, and many other such diversifications. And we need to be able
to hold a conversation with each one of them differently. Because we have
different needs from each one of them.
Some of us, are blessed with that skill. Some of us need to
nurture it. learn it. So be it, that has never stopped us from achieving our
goals has it? J
Very interesting isn't it? Ah! The things you learn in a
professional environment. Makes you rethink your own potentials and set a
higher benchmark.
A lot of CA's out there in their articleships will have
thoughts on this. As will others working as interns. Please do give me your
feedbacks, I look forward to them.
And I know this very off topic but what the hell, right?
Tell me what you think about my off the
topic topics too! :D
Look forward to writing more often for the few readers I
have! :P
A Bien Tot (See you soon)
Love,
Madd Hatter >:P
I think the speaking skill is learnt and should be learnt only from experience. And then the next time you can consciously avoid mistakes. Rest of the time, one should be free to speak, to come up with topics, which one knows by instinct and experience again, should be of mutual interest or else one converser will feel bored. 'To get work out of people' may be a different game. But there too I think it shows when the other person does not wish to do your work. Then it becomes your responsibility to complete the conversation by politely telling the other person how important it is, why is it him/her who should/can do it. Its just about being authentic, not prententious coz pretense shows. Even in the corporate world, coz human to human relations are what make you happy, not contracts to make profit. Pls discuss
ReplyDeleteJust becos I may be diplomatic or use tact in my conversation doesnt make me pretentious. :). Its just me saying something harsh, in a more appealing way. Yes, I have made mistakes, while talking, Pronunciations, and double meanings, been laughed at, etc. But these are the lessons I will take forward. Yes of course, one should be polite, but at some point you might just have to say the things the way they are. At no point am i advocating being fake. M merely stressing the fact whr one needs to be more careful while talking to the clients. :)
ReplyDeleteWell written Mad Hatter...!!:D
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